Time for some tough love from Mark Manson! The bestselling author and blogger has a tip for those waiting to find their passion—namely, screw finding your passion.
Why? Because you (probably) already know what you love to do, you just need the moxie to pursue it already. Whether you’re in denial of your passion or you’re too scared to give it a go or you’re assuming you can never make a living doing what you enjoy, you probably just need to suck it up and give it a try.
With plenty of blunt language, Mark destroys a few cozy myths and gives us the kick in the pants we need to hustle after the work we love. Give the full thing a read. Highlights below.
“You already found your passion, you’re just ignoring it.”
You don’t have to launch a manhunt to find your passions. Just stop ignoring them. They’re right in front of you. They’re what you do when you say no to other plans so you can do what you really love. They’re what you’re doing when your friends or family interrupt you.
How do you spend your time? What do you choose to do without even thinking about whether it will make you a millionaire or solve world hunger? What do you talk, read, write, or surf the web about? What’s on your Amazon wishlist? What’s your gravitational pull?
“There’s some topic or activity or idea that dominates a significant amount of your free time, your conversations, your web browsing, and it dominates them without you consciously pursuing it or looking for it,” Mark says.
“If you have to look for what you’re passionate about, then you’re probably not passionate about it at all.”
Don’t hunt far and wide for your interests. They’re right in front of you. (See above.) And don’t force something on yourself! If your uncle once told you that you have the mind of an engineer, but guess what, you really dislike building stuff, don’t sell your soul to engineering. If you like you “should” be into business (because you could make good money) but you dislike every part of starting or running a company, don’t force yourself. Conjuring up fake interest in someone else’s passion will only waste your time and drain your soul.
“The problem is not a lack of passion for something…. The problem is perception… Acceptance…. Priorities.”
If you’re like most people, you probably assume you can’t earn money doing what you love. You may be right, but you’re wrong to just assume you can’t. You love baking. Can you start a bakery? You love video games. Can you design them? You love the outdoors. Can you be a surveyor?
Your interests are telling you something. Accept the fact that maybe you really were meant to do something amazing with that “hobby.” Prioritize that passion.
If you give up making a career out of the one passion that consumes more free time than anything else, then it had better be because you honestly tried.
“Every job sucks sometimes.”
News flash! Even if you succeed in your true dream job, you won’t always like it and you don’t always have to. That’s life. “I am living in my dream job…and I still hate about 30% of it.” That’s okay. And you know what? It takes the pressure off finding that elusive job that never ever annoys you. It doesn’t exist.
So kill the dream of finding a job that lets you do exactly what you feel like doing every second of every day. Give it a quiet funeral and move onto better things.
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